Do you lack self confidence?Tips on how to build it

Self-confidence is the belief we have in ourselves, in our strengths and abilities. This belief leads us to do what we want in life because we know we will succeed. We could say that self-confidence is the positive attitude that a person has towards themselves. Self-confidence is important because it helps us succeed in both our personal and professional lives. However, many people nowadays, despite having many qualifications and skills do not have the confidence they should. It is worth noting that we are not born without faith in ourselves. Unfortunately, lack of confidence is developed through our relationships with parents, friends and our social environment in general.

Simple ways to gain and boost your self-confidence

Stop comparing yourself to  others

In an era which is conquered by social media, it is very easy to compare our lives with the lives of others and come to the conclusion that we are less beautiful / successful etc. Instead we should be focusing  on our own abilities and strengths and what we have achieved in your lives .

Do not be so strict on yourself

A small mistake and a failure lead you to judge yourself very harshly while you know that you are human and mistakes are allowed. You should show the same love and kindness to yourself  that you show to other people.

Speak kindly to yourself

When something goes wrong, do not blame yourself and do not start the negative self talk. All this negative thinking can only hurt you and lower self-confidence and belief in your abilities. Practice the following thoughts / words: Instead of saying “I can’t do it” say “I will do it”. Instead of saying “I can do nothing right” when you make a mistake say “I will do better next time”

Face your fears

Do not expect to feel more confident to ask for a raise or to ask the person you like out on a date.  When you face your fears you gain more faith in yourself even if everything does not go as you want and thus more self confident. Giota Florou (source: www. verywellmind.com) Recent Articles